“You don’t have to be positive all the time. It’s perfectly okay to feel sad, angry, annoyed, frustrated, scared, or anxious. Having feelings doesn’t make you a negative person. It makes you human.”
– Lori Deschene
Today I am angry and that’s okay.
I can’t shake it. This urge to scream at the passersby for driving so slowly. The desire to tell the lady at the store who doesn’t carry what I need, what I really think. The impulse to drop all my emotions on the man at the next store who doesn’t know where the item I’m searching for is located. The whim to yell at Meg for barking at every person she sees go by the window.
I didn’t scream. I didn’t tell anyone what I really thought. I didn’t drop my emotions on anyone. I didn’t yell at Meg.
Today I am angry and that’s okay. It is not okay, however, to take my emotions out on a person I “believed” contributed to my bad day. I say “believed” because I have something else completely going on but am choosing to blame it on a person at the convenience store? Instead, I am using these situations as excuses of why I’m angry.
So, why am I angry?
I am angry that everything hasn’t gone exactly as planned and as I had hoped. It sounds so childish and first world when I type these words. What’s funny is a friend of mine recently told me things weren’t going as planned. You know what I said? If something isn’t going as planned, that just means something even more incredible is around the corner. Now, when I’m angry, this response sounds cheesy. However, no matter how cheesy this sounds, it is true. I often want everything yesterday as many of us do. Patience is really a virtue. Sometimes I’m incredibly patient and other times after feeling like I’ve been patient for years, I want to blow a gasket.
Today I am angry and that’s okay. I am normally a happy-go-lucky person daily. However, sometimes I just have a bad day. Society often tells us to hide our so-called negative emotions. I say I can be angry if I don’t blame or take out my anger on another for how I respond, if I don’t hold it in until I do blow a gasket, and if I understand why.
So, I didn’t blame or take my anger out on anyone else.
I found an amazing meditation by The Honest Guys called Releasing Anger and listened to it fully. The meditation was amazing because I could feel my anger being released, then sadness setting in, and then ended with joy and a smile.
I understand I am waiting for something amazing to happen when it reality there is no reason for me to focus on the unknown instead of focusing on the present.
This is why I call myself a Quality of Life Strategist. I have this amazing balance between logic and feelings and transform that balance into my coaching by creating systems (logic) where a high quality of life (feelings) is achieved.
I pat myself on the back for practicing what I preach, being transparent and vulnerable, and having the sense to use my gifts to serve.
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