I fell off the wagon…yep again. It doesn’t matter what wagon, the drinking wagon, the exercising wagon, the eating healthy wagon. It doesn’t matter. For me, falling off this wagon was and is not a failure. It’s the message I needed to remind me how beautiful life is, that I am human, that this kick in the pants was what I needed to remember. To remember how I am supported and loved, how life has so much to offer, and how I want to treat myself, as the goddess that I am.
I am not going to think of the future wagons and the potential of falling off again. I am going to stay in the now. I am going to go through that uncomfortable phase of guilt and feeling ill, then the wonderful phase of my eyes opening to what is possible, and then the here and now. How I can use this misstep or purposeful step, to be present, to be me, to use my gifts, to enjoy life, and to live according to me.
What and where is this wagon anyway? The wagon represents perfection and we all...
I am writing this as I’m overcoming a stomach bug my husband and I blame on shrimp. I woke up feeling extra tired. I forced myself to grab some coffee and run 2 miles. Bathroom break (yes, the number your thinking). Still tired. Went to breakfast. More coffee. Still tired and kind of nervous about how I was feeling. I am always a morning person. What if something is seriously wrong with me? Back home and out to walk the dogs for their Saturday walk. Bathroom break before and after the walk with the dogs (same number as the first). I gave in and slept for 2 hours. Out for furniture shopping and lunch. I felt better but still tired. Back to sleep for 4 more hours! What?!!
This is the part where you should remember it’s ok to feel shitty, mentally and/or physically. In this example, I was feeling shitty with the nerves, upset stomach and fatigue. And it’s ok. Although it may have been unpleasant, my body needed to rest, and I needed to listen.
I used to be one of...
For the longest time I have been hiding my spirituality, thinking people will look at me like I have seven heads. I am fortunate as a former CFO, Doctor in Accounting, and CPA to have a highly logical and structured part of me. Alternatively, as a Certified Professional Coach, I am blessed to have an extremely empathetic and intuitive side. I have found that this balance of logic and intuition is rare for someone like me, you know, a self-proclaimed, heart-centered nerd. I am intelligent when it comes to numbers, can read others very quickly, and often absorb others’ energy.
I have found that I have brought the side of me that fits the occasion, but never both. I have decided once and for all that I will begin bringing all of me to everything I do. I will no longer bring logical Jen to corporate functions and empathetic Jen to coaching and spiritual events. And whew! This is such a relief. You see, I wasn’t being as authentic as possible, even though authenticity is one...
Stop complaining and take action!
Have I gotten your attention? Good.
I have been surrounded by people who want more out of their life but don’t do anything about it. I’m frustrated and angry. I know my life long curriculum is playing a huge role in reducing my judgment of others, but I am here in this place of frustration and it’s perfect. Enough about me. On to you.
I see you, I see your potential and know if you only took a little teeny step, you would see what I see. You would get excited about the future and know that thriving in life is attainable.
Yes, it’s perfectly fine to complain for a little while. But, when it becomes for prolonged periods of time, you know, years for some, it’s time to reflect. See how much this way of thinking and behaving is really serving you.
It’s also okay to not be ready to make a change. However, if you’re not ready to make a change then don’t complain and be content in your current...
So often I’ve seen clients and loved ones either:
Do you see the pattern here? Let’s break this pattern right here and right now. Breaking a pattern requires just one step outside of the norm.
How long are you going to let life pass you by?
First, wake the ________ up! It is time we opened our eyes to all life has to offer. All of us are worthy of happiness and abundance but we must first be awake and willing to receive. I don’t mean being awake like a guru on a mountain, well that’s great too, but simply being awake and aware of our surroundings, our gifts, the amazing possibilities, and then moving forward with that hope, wonder, and search for whatever you want in life.
I have seen people stuck in life and have no clue that the box they have been putting themselves in daily is an...
Can you imagine if most of your day was spent doing things that matter most to you? I can help. I created a tool that helps you live life by analyzing your daily tasks and cutting the crap.
Because we are an all hands-on deck society, narrowing your daily responsibilities and tasks to what is important to you is key. This means achieving work-life balance personally and professionally.
How much time does it take? Do you enjoy it? Is it required? I don’t mean do you require it. I mean more like is it required by law, like filing your taxes for instance. Lastly, is it meaningful?
Think about it. If something takes forever, you hate it, it doesn’t have to be done, and it has no purpose, then why are you doing it? There are so many combinations to this exercise - how you evaluate the...
What do you think of when you read these two words?
Religion? Maybe. Spirituality? Maybe. Your best self? Absolutely!
Yes, the term Higher Self can certainly mean many things to many people. For example, Masteringalchemy.com states that “Your Higher Self is, in simple terms, the highest aspect of you that can be attained and held in the physical body.” Yippee! I can’t help myself. I get so excited thinking about how I can strive to be my highest self. I don’t mean being hard on myself when I’m not my Highest Self. I mean hello, we are human, right? I just enjoy having something amazing to aspire towards.
So, what would life look like if everyone knew their Higher Self or best self existed?
Let’s take this a step further.
What would life look like if Corporate Americans embraced a journey towards their higher self?
Ok, one last step further. For right now, at least.
What would life look like if our leaders (don’t forget everyone...
You may be confused by the title of this blog, pun intended. If you’re in a high-level position or a very successful entrepreneur, you may be questioning this title. If you are currently without a prestigious (according to society) title, you may be thinking woohoo!
Ok, let me get to the point already.
Think about a title or position you have or would love to have.
For example, before I became a Certified Professional Coach, I was a CFO. Yes, this sounds impressive. Yes, I was proud of my achievements. Yes, this background and experience is certainly helpful in my business. But, do these 3 letters define me? Absolutely not!
Furthermore, just because a leader is titled as such, does not mean he or she is indeed a leader.
I may be sounding direct right now and that is precisely my intention.
I am sick to my stomach thinking how society has pushed us into believing that our title, our profession, and our prestige is what determines who we are and how successful we are.
To have an...
There are times we put up a wall around us because of past experiences. This suit of armor is useful at first, but eventually becomes unhealthy when it evolves into a permanent part of our foundation. You know, when we begin doubting relationships and limiting our trust in others on a full-time basis.
Let me tell you, this wall of skepticism, disbelief, doubt, and protection is tiresome to maintain. It is so much easier to relinquish control, begin trusting, and open your heart. I know, it is possible that you will feel pain again but that is part of life and is by no means indefinite. How exciting is life if you always have your guard up and never actually experience joy, happiness and passion?
People are put in our lives on time and on purpose. If we feel hurt by another, it is an opportunity to learn and grow. This pain is not a reason to put up a wall that no one else can ever enter. Let those like-minded, supportive, and loving people in your life. Can you imagine what a relief...
We all have these inner pesky voices in our head feeding our doubts, choking our confidence, and convincing us their words are true.
Meet Fred. He’s my inner voice, my Gremlin, or whatever else you want to call him.
I love Fred and you know why? He’s here to protect me and he’s been with me for a very long time, decades. Fred is skeptical, persistent, and always wants to be in the limelight.
Fred is my “What if” Gremlin. You know, “What if I fail?”, “What if I’m not good enough?”, and so on and so on.
Now just because Fred is here to protect me doesn’t mean I still need him in the same way I did say when I was 5 years old.
Fred can remain but only if he is serving me in a way I need him now, as an adult. I know I no longer need him to question my worthiness or what will happen should I fail. Because guess what? I AM worthy. We all are. A so-called failure is simply an opportunity for learning and growth.
You have the purpose and power to be as successful as you want to be. Imagine living life on your terms and with purpose. Are you ready to take the first step?
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