“It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped.” – Tony Robbins
I am writing this because I often get stuck in the weeds with so many people voicing their opinions on what I should do. It’s not that I don’t value and respect those giving feedback, I just can’t make decisions with everyone having a say in my life. Did you hear the critical words here? My Life, yep that was it. It sounds childish at first. You know, envision when you were a teenager and mom or dad said you couldn’t do such and such and you said but it’s my life. I don’t care, you were on to something there.
We don’t want to hurt others or treat them as if we don’t care, but we do want to take a moment and decide if advice or opinions are helpful. I know from experience, taking every piece of advice can be exhausting and take us in circles because everyone has an opinion and usually they’re all different.
The following questions are...
“You don’t have to be positive all the time. It’s perfectly okay to feel sad, angry, annoyed, frustrated, scared, or anxious. Having feelings doesn’t make you a negative person. It makes you human.”
– Lori Deschene
Today I am angry and that’s okay.
I can’t shake it. This urge to scream at the passersby for driving so slowly. The desire to tell the lady at the store who doesn’t carry what I need, what I really think. The impulse to drop all my emotions on the man at the next store who doesn’t know where the item I’m searching for is located. The whim to yell at Meg for barking at every person she sees go by the window.
I didn’t scream. I didn’t tell anyone what I really thought. I didn’t drop my emotions on anyone. I didn’t yell at Meg.
Today I am angry and that’s okay. It is not okay, however, to take my emotions out on a person I “believed” contributed to my bad day. I say...
There are coaches everywhere you look. I am a Certified Professional Coach and I think everyone should have a coach or mentor. I also think people should make informed decisions especially when the choices are overwhelming.
Why do I believe everyone should have a coach? Firstly, I am a coach and I have a coach. There is always someone out there that can bring a new and outside perspective to a situation. We sometimes wear blinders and don’t realize what is right in front of us until we talk to a neutral third-party who has dedicated their life to helping others, the coach.
1. Ask the coach what tools they have.
Coaches will use a variety of tools from assessments, talking, action plans, and more. Ask if each session will be talking. Will there be assignments? What kind of action will you be able to take? I use a variety of methods including assessments, intuitive listening, asking poignant questions, assigning homework, summarizing or recording the sessions, debriefing on...
I moved to Fort Collins, Colorado nearly a month ago. I’ve been spending time meeting new friends. I met a new friend, Jennifer Tracy, having no idea how much she would inspire me. She asked me what made me reach out to her. I had no idea what it was that made me message her on LinkedIn, but it was something. I had no idea the mountains of life she had climbed, fallen, and then climbed again.
Jennifer wrote this book, Inside the Mind of Suicide. I felt honored as she told me, a brand-new friend, her story. I stopped drinking my coffee, listened and became filled with love, empathy, and amazement at the life she had led thus far.
After hearing about Jennifer’s thoughts of suicide and the loss of her husband and twin daughter to a drunk driver, I immediately wanted to give her a hug and tell her it would be ok. I wanted to tell her how brave she was.
I came to realize, however, that Jennifer knows she is brave. She knows everything will be ok. She knows. Jennifer is...
Highly Successful Women and Burnout – The Stages
“In dealing with those who are undergoing great suffering, if you feel burnout setting in, if you feel demoralized and exhausted, it is best, for the sake of everyone, to withdraw and restore yourself. The point is to have a long‐term perspective.” ‐ Dalai Lama
This quote from the wonderful Dalai Lama pretty much sums up how to respond to burnout. His holiness says to “withdraw and restore yourself.”
Most likely you know if you’re stressed or in some phase of being burnout. However, I was a workaholic and thought I could go and go until I ended up in the emergency room with severe panic attacks, anxiety, and stress. I thought I could handle anything thrown my way. My body told me otherwise.
So first, let’s see how burnout you are and if you are ready to be aware and acknowledge your burnout and stress.
According to research, the number of stages ranges from three to twelve but are all...
“Life is a journey, not a destination.” ― Ralph Waldo Emerson
Society sometimes says we should take leaps and bounds in life. This week has been all about baby steps for me and I feel great about it!
I just moved across the country to the 4th happiest City in America, Fort Collins, Colorado. What I realized very quickly from traveling here before, is that I must be gentle with myself acclimating to the altitude of a little over 5,000 feet compared to the whole 7 feet in Fort Lauderdale, Florida. This means although I’m trying to workout, I’m going to start with 15-minute runs. I’m going to unpack things for the house a little at a time especially in the 100-degree weather we’re experiencing. Sure, I could go crazy and let my ego take over and run or unpack until I feel sick but why? Why should I be in such a hurry to accomplish something when instead, I can love myself and enjoy the journey.
We always want the quick fix. The quick weight loss,...
I was recently invited to attend Brendon Burchard’s Experts Academy (EA) in Santa Clara, California. I underestimated the valuable and amazing nuggets of wisdom I would receive during the event. First, Brendon exudes passion in every aspect of his life. I thought I was passionate about serving others as a happiness and success coach. I had no idea how much passion I was capable of until a fire was lit under my ass.
I know I can do anything I put my mind to if I am enthusiastic and passionate about the idea and SO CAN YOU. Does this sound like a piece of writing that is supposed to motivate you? Good, because it is.
Really think about what you want in life. What kind of lifestyle do you want? Anything and everything is on the table so think big. You could start by thinking small and that’s perfectly fine if you keep thinking.
As a smart cookie with a doctoral degree, CPA license and background as a chief executive, I love absorbing as much information as...
In this day and age, we often feel rushed, that there isn’t enough time in the day, and we have a whole lot on our plates with no light at the end in sight.
With these 15 tips, you can get back your life, live on your terms and reduce the constant pressure.
1. Start a daily meditation or exercise routine.
Meditation and exercise help to give your non-stop thoughts a break. This break helps to improve your focus and stamina, thus using your time much more efficiently.
2. Carry a calendar.
Schedule everything and add a buffer for unexpected tasks. Use the traditional paper calendar or an electronic calendar. It doesn’t matter as long as you are using it. Once you get in the habit of putting everything on the calendar, you will stress less and use your memory for more important things.
3. Look at your calendar and make list of the next day’s goals the night before.
It is much better to know what your day looks like the night...
You heard right. I worked my way up the career and education ladder and later determined there was something missing. I was judged by some for giving up what seemed to be a wonderful opportunity. A friend and coworker told me it’s not every day a woman in her thirties becomes a CFO and I should make sure when I move to Colorado, I pursue the same career. Others were impressed by my ability to follow my heart. Others just asked a bunch of questions.
Let me go back about 15 years so you have a little context.
I absolutely love learning. I received my Bachelor of Science in Accounting and graduated with the highest GPA in the class. I passed the CPA exam after the 1st attempt. That was not enough. I received my MBA. That still wasn’t enough. I received my Doctoral degree in Accounting.
I began my accounting career as a staff accountant. Over the years, through hard work and determination, I was promoted to senior accountant, manager, Controller, and now CFO.
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